Archive for May, 2009
Friendships are all about putting yourself out there, going that extra step, a little outside your common ground.
Two people in my life have done that at different times. First off there is Frank, you bloggers know him of the owner of Tech Jaws, I met him when he was still hot and heavy at blogtbt.com – Frank found my blog – as he referenced it.. “a gay looking blog” through entrecard. He loved the content and my art, but the blog design left a bit to be desired. How the hell should I know, I thought, I only used a template, and knew nothing of code or php.
I gave Frank my logins and we spoke several times, but I was still slightly hesitant to meet someone from online in person. It took him over 6 hours to get my blog where it should be and his work on soul-to-soul.com gave it a beautiful scar free face lift. 6 hours of his time on a Saturday, just because he believes in helping others out and being a friend.
A few months later, we hooked up online, asked him what he was up to, and he said..nothin’, as I did. I said, grab your gal pal and come over for a BBQ. He was all in.. now my husband, who plays it a little closer to the vest than I do, is the “quiet” one, and likes “quiet”…. anyone that’s ever talked to Frank – knows he is not quiet..
I walked into the batcave, aka, the basement, told my husband, my blog groupie and his girlfriend were on the way over, and btw, he is a mouthy Italian, “play nice”
Thus began a friendship – Buck and Frank hit it off, as did “Veronica” and I, (real name Victoria), but we all kept calling her Veronica, hit it off great! (the rum must have been responsible for the name descrepancy.
Frank & Victoria decided that they were going to get married and head down to the court house to do so, that made my heart a little sad. They don’t have family here, and every one deserves a special day. I told my boyz about it, thats Buck and Jake, Jake the “Ordained Minister from ULC” said he would marry them. Frank was thrilled, but the plan had one issue, Jake couldn’t do it legally in Illinois, he is not 18 yet.
A hot tub and a few rum & cokes later, “THE QUIET ONE” said, Ordain me, I’ll do it. Frank and Victoria once again, were all in. Ordained, legal and calls to the county, confirmed it.
I wondered about this, Buck doesn’t like performing anything in front of anyone, and thats sad, he is a kick ass, killer guitar player.
Saturday, May 16th, 2009, Reverend Wayne M. Kleiner Jr. joined together in marriage, Frank & Victoria
With two friends present, a beautiful day, in West Dundee it was a pleasure to see people come together. Seeing Frank just joke around, calm and enjoying the fact that “friends” were around to see him marry his gal and gain a wife.
This tells me, what friendship is all about. Doing something you normally wouldn’t do, sharing a piece of your life, your love and going that extra step.
Buck tells it like it is, and we often talk about friendship, which him and I both have had some really crappy experiences in the past, because we put ourselves out there.. and he looked at me and said…
“I wouldn’t do this if I didn’t like Frank.. and I really like Frank.”
Blessings to Frank & Victoria
P.S..after they left our house and the festivities..we want to say, our day was as blessed as theirs for knowing them and being part of their special event… FRANK rocks on harmonica...
When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares. ~Henri Nouwen
Today I share with you words from Nicole – she approached me a few weeks back via email and asked if I could possibly morph two separate photo’s into one drawing? Nicole’s story has been told to many people I am close with, my heart was warmed by her passion to make a friend smile and bring a special moment to her friends graduation.
Below are Nicole’s own words of why she did this….
The quote above is a perfect example the relationship with my friend. My friends mother past away last August after she battled three different types of cancers. My friend and her mother were very close more like best friends. She past 2 weeks before her senior year of high school and she wouldn’t get to see her graduate.
That’s way I decided to have this sketch done of her and her mother together as her graduation gift. It shows that they will always be together at heart and will see each other again..
I have muscles in my ass I didn’t know existed!
That is a 12 foot ladder you see, the place is N.I.C.A.B – Northern Illinois Classic Auto Brokers or aka – Custom Muscle Cars
Saturday May 9th, NICAB is hosting an open house – this is a facilty that I have passed on Rt. 12 many times, but knew little about.
I was hired to do an American Flag for them, I questioned myself over & over about this job. I am not the most “graceful” person on the planet and envisioned myself dropping pints of paint from a top the ladder and watching it crash down onto priceless cars below me.
Not to mention the glass cases that are entwined throughout the facility housing Elvis, Beatles and many pieces of rock memorabilia.
I even contemplated at 1:00 in the morning the day before about canceling, freaking myself out for all sorts of reasons. Self doubt can really play havoc on your mind!
It was about 2 in the afternoon, when it took a little more time to climb those 12 rungs, and I didn’t
have as much get up and go when I realized, this was coming together!
Here is a situation that I was second guessing myself. I am self taught, and usually go on gut. I thought about sketching the entire drawing out on the wall in pencil to begin with, but when I got on the ladder to start. It just came to me. I saw the picture in my head, and knew how to get it done. Done to the point, the owner of NICAB – Tony Begley – asked what I would put on one of the last blank walls in his establishment. Looking at it – I had the idea for 2 large checkered flags.
He wanted me to come back the next day to finish up, since the opening was a week away. Am I glad I told him I’d let him know if the next day would work, or a day next week would be better.
Because, there was no way I could even walk, let alone climb that ladder again. I was well done. I had no idea the effects of going up and down a 12 foot ladder for 8 hours would have on my body.
This gave me new meaning of step aerobics, to the pathetic point that I hobbled around all Saturday realizing that I was well out of shape!
Well, yesterday I reached that finish line, I added some final touches to the big American Flag, outlining the NICAB logo in red to make it stand out and putting a bit of shadow work underneath the red stripes.
I then added the checkered flags to bay 2 and was delighted at the outcome. I think more so because of Tony’s excitement, it will be neat to see the whole place put back together.
Self doubt is destructive and if I would have given into it, I wouldn’t have learned what I can accomplish when I knuckle down, slow down and take my time to feel the vibe. I would have cheated myself out of something that gave me a really awesome drug free high, a feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction.
Taking and listening to Tony’s vision and what he saw in his mind’s eye and turning it into a reality with paint and watching it come to life gave me an incredible sense of accomplishment..